Is it time to get more help? Are you doing your best to provide care and support to your parent or loved one, but it is becoming too much…It may be time to have “The Talk” with your parents. The conversations most worth having are often the most difficult. It is important to talk openly about BETTER OPTIONS for all of you. It will take time, but it is best to start the conversation and exploration before it becomes an urgent task with less options.
Here are some suggestions on how to approach the topic and make it a positive experience…
Mom/Dad: I am doing just fine at home with your help.
Daughter/Son: Yes, we have all been managing, but it IS NOT fine anymore. The house has become too much for you to handle by yourself and too much for me to help you with any longer. I don’t want you to just manage. I want you to really enjoy living in an environment that gives you access to more socializing, activities and ultimately more freedom and independence.
Mom/Dad: I am not alone. I have you and your brother and sister.
Daughter/Son: We love being with you. We want to spend quality time with you instead of the time we spend worrying, running errands, paying bills, cleaing and nursing you. We have busy schedules, it is becoming stressful and we can’t be there to give you proper care. Also, it is important that you have your own friends. In a Senior Living Community, you can get together with people you have more in common with whenever you like.
Mom/Dad: Couldn’t we just hire a service to come in and help me at home?
Daughter/Son: We could, however you would be isolated by yourself too often. A paid caregiver is not a friend or family. I want you to be out doing things and seeing people and enjoying yourself like you used to. Also, the cost of home care plus your existing expenses are higher than other options that are better for you. Let’s just explore these options. They are very different than you might remember.
Mom/Dad: I don’t need that much help. Those places are for old sick people.
Daughter/Son: There are some amazing housing options that allow you to be very independent. You are right, you don’t need that much help. There are communities where you will have your own apartment, wonderful meals and fun, interesting things to do every day. This will allow you to be even more independent that you are now because you won’t have to wait around for me!!
Mom/Dad: I don’t think it is for me. What if I go there and hate it?
Daughter/Son: If you try it and don’t like it, you don’t have to stay. Most of the Senior Living apartments are only a 30 day commitment and you can try it out and see if you like it. The amazing thing is, most people that try it, love it and wish they had made the move much sooner!
Mom/Dad: How do we find the right place, I don’t know where to begin?
Daughter/Son: There is a new service available for Senior’s and their families that assists with finding the right type of housing. And best of all…IT IS FREE!!!!! The advisors match up your budgetary, geographical, social, clinical and cognitive needs/desires with the community to give you the best options to visit. They take you on the tours and help you through the process. The community then pays the service a commission for placing you in their community. Sunshine Senior Services only works with licensed communities to give you the best options. Let’s give it a try.
Call Sunshine Senior Services today and let them do all the hard work for you!! 470-204-2333 ext. 102